No Expectations, No Disappointment

Only happy surprises

I know I rail on about this, but we really need to get past isms. It requires assumptions we shouldn’t be making.

Is your kid safe with that pastor? It depends on the pastor.

Is a president smart? It depends on the president.

These classifications, when presented, may be more aspirational than factual, and always subject to their interpretation.

Assuming words and terms mean the same thing is problematic. I said earlier, plausible deniability is the gaslighter’s playground. We are seeing the regime do it, we are seeing the narcs in our lives do it.

Relying on a commonly understood meaning, while ascribing a different one themselves.

It is not uncommon, once everyone cools their tits, for misunderstandings to be the root cause of conflicts. Not what was said, or meant, but what WE think it meant. Abusers run wild in that grey area.

It’s deeply upsetting when the mask drops and you realize they’ve been blowing sunshine up your ass the whole time. Grow a little spine and they don’t seem to know you at all anymore. You weren’t human to them. You didn’t matter.

The silver lining is it reaffirms your decision to show a little spine and stand up for yourself. They’ve shown you who they are.

We are all more alike than different. We want fundamentally the same things. Most people are good. Those who aren’t leave a trail of destruction.

People hate each other and are distrustful, over dumb labels. People are quick to place them on each other like some dumb neuroscience jedi mind trick.

We see it all the time. I said something on behalf of women and someone is calling me a libtard feminist.

Someone else called me a Trumptard which is still baffling.

It was my mother, having some sort of split. Her black sheep, not aligning with an opposing political view, after 35 years of estrangement. Mind blown.

I post plenty to the contrary, but I’m “all bad” to her. She’s already decided.

She’s not going to look for anything good. It would break her world view.

That’s why meeting people (who are willing to speak to you, in this case I am not, let’s call it discernment) diffuses biases so effectively.

Anyway…

That is their perception of people who hold my views, or maybe they are just looking for reasons not to like me. People are weird. I assure you I do not hold ALL of any -isms commonly “understood” views. Much less what every stranger on the internet decided it meant.

I won’t align under a label I do not agree with.

That is why I never “fit in.”

It is not my responsibility to know and track all these variables for others to more easily categorize me. If someone wants to know my views, they could just ask.

But they never do. They’ve already decided for you.

Huge red flag.

In this post truth shit-show, normalize clarifying terms, or what was meant, along with what was said.

If your family used “ralphing” to mean farting and mine used it to use vomiting, I’m going to think someone threw up every time you say it. That’s nobody’s fault and a minor, funny thing.

Similar has happened, I don’t remember the term.

The things people want to rely on are values, decency, and authenticity.

No cap.

They want this country to be the place they were raised believing it was, now that we have discovered what it is. It’s a lot to reconcile, but we can’t just ignore it.

Bad people want us disconnected from each other. The machine won’t go if the cogs don’t play along.

Forget what you hallucinated about someone. Forget what they told you to believe about them. Pay attention to what they do and how they treat others. It’s that simple. People show us who they are all the time.

It is our duty to use our discernment. It should be more finely tuned than a broad generalization or ism.

Find people who share your values and live by principals you can respect. It’s a far better litmus test than what you imagine a label meant.

There are few absolutes in this world, but I believe this one holds true:

Generalizations are NEVER accurate.

That is why no serious argument or opinion should rely on them. They are meant to antagonize.

The best people I know don’t fit any mold. They don’t drop keywords for their brand. They just do their own thing. And they are dope as fuck.

People can believe, love, or do whatever they want.

That’s none of my concern as long as they aren’t fucking shit up for others.

Universal rights, baby!

Peace doesn’t just mean freedom from war. It means freedom from drama and propaganda. A rough sort of assholes vs angels should be sufficient rid the world of some of this bullshit.

We aren’t going to get it letting a bunch of assholes ruin it for everyone just trying to live their lives.

I don’t know about you, but I would like some real peace for a while.