Dicks, Divinity, and the Great Complacency Conspiracy
Unpacking the Woes of Masculinity and Its Outdated Playbook
We hear a lot these days about “trans mutilation” of children that does not happen. I’ve mentioned before and will point out again that in my over ½ century on this rock, not much of a deal is made over baby boys being circumcised. Those who are circumcized are exposed to a huge violation and trauma, usually hours after being born, which in itself is traumatic. The birth canal is a light squeeze.
And (some) dudes are super WEIRD about dicks. Car size (wiggles pinky), crowd size, bank account size, inferiority complexes, insecurity. Figurative (I hope) dick-measuring and pissing contests, and so on. Women are suppressed because they didn’t even get dicks (A clit was NOT being short-changed, maybe they are jealous of multiple orgasms instead of performance-delaying refractory periods?).
Despite women being accused of emasculating men, from where I sit, it is most commonly done by men to each other. Women arrived late to the medical field. I know there are women rabbis, but they do not dominate the field, as I understand it. Y’all call each other pussies and use feminine qualities as insults.
That bit in Matthew about men using each other like women wasn’t a condemnation of homosexuality; it was a condemnation of rape; I like to think specifically of cruel self-gratification at someone else’s expense instead of consensual love-making or at least mutual pleasure.
If you cannot see how twisted the middlemen of organized religion are, consider that same-sex couples, but mostly men (because MANY men are excited by the idea of two women together while claiming to be repulsed at the opposite) are treated as evil sinners while raping keeps right on happening with little impunity or incentive to stop it. No fucking jet is making it through the eye of a needle. It is a fucking scam that sweeps up people who are decent and believe it for honorable reasons. It was THE original astroturf movement. The hypocrisy is palpable, and people roll with it and deny it rather than admit to making a mistake or dare step out of line. Why?
Look at all that we have accomplished. I don’t think we are any better, happier, or kinder because of it. Being part of any community encourages the “good” parts of church, with no tithes or Sunday morning sacrifice required. The best way not to worry about being represented by a creep is to represent yourself instead of outsourcing it. Also, don’t be a creep.
Women are expected to protect fragile male egos the way men are trained to protect their bosses. Women and girls are socially conditioned to do so, just as men are to protect their bosses, so you know it is not real. It is expected. It is holding us back. If you allow yourself to believe the sun shines out of your behind because women are supposed to make you feel that way, there is no incentive to better yourself. Maintaining the status quo is a massive failure in a species that tends to evolve.
No team is better than its weakest link. Some seem to feel women should be permanently handicapped. Maybe they think our boobs or periods are heavier? This is a way in which traits anyone can have that are often associated with femininity, like acceptance, empathy, nurturing, and kindness, are weaponized. We “must” be nice. Sometimes it is unsafe not to be. By stunting your own growth and contributions to society while insisting women (and probably minorities) must never outperform your underwhelming “gold standard,” we are moonwalking into the dark ages.
“Oh, Archie” - All in the Family
Voting for the “lesser of two evils” for decades has not and will not yield a net positive. That requires “good” candidates more often than bad ones. If you have a glass of water, dissolve whichever spoon has less salt in it over and over again, you are still getting fucking saltwater. Is “no matter who,” how you choose a partner too. If so, it explains a lot. Also, may the odds be ever in your favor.
Why do you hate yourself? Don’t you think you deserve a nice partner? As it turns out, it takes one to know, attract, or retain one. Until then, you are not even playing the same sport.
Have some self-respect and learn some discernment. Or change nothing, get the same, but for fuck’s safe stop whining about the choices you choose to make.
Similar to any culture that prefers women be uneducated baby factories and kitchen dwellers struggle to move ahead, some of these choices (especially the forced birth situation some women now face in the US) will limit our progress/accelerate our descent, miring us in poverty. That is what happens when you halve your workforce and exponentially increase the mouths to feed. Can you afford produce for a family of 10? Could your salary alone sustain a family of that size? Does everyone not allowed to plan their conception? The math simply doesn’t check out. That is why it is very important to those pushing this narrative that you are not educated or disobedient enough to notice.
If you are young, you may not realize our streets were not always lined with homeless. I was a runaway, had already been homeless, and was SHOCKED to see the streets of Portland in the early 2000s. Now Seattle looks like that. So do the suburbs. Maybe in your town too. Some regular people have been priced out of [responsible] parenthood and any sort of home ownership for at least a decade,
“You’re so vain” - Carly Simon
Not any all ever, obviously. If the shoe doesn’t fit, I clearly don’t mean you.
Some of us end up trapped in unhealthy and abusive dynamics that have been normalized for us.
It is not beneficial to the sort of vile toxic people who do this crap to advertise it.
I don’t want decent humans with wonderful traits to be painted in a corner as I have experienced just by being well-meaning and perhaps a little too trusting of those who have not earned it.
It sucks ass, and MY name is often used to accomplish it, so fuck ‘em.
Don’t.
When we know these things we can be aware, maybe pay attention when our spidey senses tingle. Do keep your wits about you. Don’t close your heart.
“Don’t stop never stopping” - Pop Star
Regarding the tradwife, evangelical breeder boxes, and others running toward where we are headed so enthusiastically while also blindfolded:
Go look up Romanian birth incentives. We are not incentivized, and our infant/mortality rates are an embarrassment in the “developed world.”
Do not FORCE women to become a burden by clipping their wings and then dare to resent or deny the horrific outcome. What on earth do you imagine will cause a better outcome for us with no logical measures taken other than to mandate it? If you think the holy war you are gunning for will fix it, you are even dumber than I thought. Maybe let wifey take a shift thinking.
Complacent is complicit. Participation is part of the problem. Be a solution.
"It's never too late to stop being a dick."
-- Cassie Lang